It's your journey. So who are you, where are you going, and how do you get there? A practical tip for “following your own path” as the leader.
The only person you can change is yourself.
No one knows you better than you do; not your mother, not your spouse, not your significant other, not your best friend, not your therapist, not your sister, no one. No one else has looked through your eyes, or suffered your humiliations, or reveled in your glories in quite the same way as you.
Each person does the best he or she can based on what he or she understands or perceives at a given point in time.
You are unique.
If your life isn't working for you, change it. How? Use your imagination.
Imagine biting into a wedge of a fresh lemon. Imagine the tart juices of the lemon squirting into your mouth and under your tongue. Chances are you're already salivating. Your brain knows you are imagining the lemon, but your body responds as if it were real.
When you think about walking, neurons in your legs fire and lay down a neuronal pathway in your brain, even though you are not moving. When you think about standing in front of an audience and forgetting your speech, neurons are firing in your brain creating that pathway. Likewise, when you envision yourself feeling confident and well prepared as you stand before your audience, neurons fire to create that pathway.
Listen to your inner dialogues. What do you say to yourself? Are you critical? Worried? Afraid? Look at the scenarios you play out in your mind? Do you conjure visions of gloom and doom? Do you see yourself failing, making mistakes, forgetting things? Do you find yourself focusing on sad or bad things that happened to you in the past? What neuronal pathways are you creating or reinforcing?
Your brain/body wisdom responds to your imagination and recollections. Worries, fears, and anxieties can manifest as headaches, tight muscles, high blood pressure, insomnia, etc. Whereas, positive and pleasant thoughts and images bring smiles to our faces, make us laugh, relax us, and reduce stress. See the positive, the ridiculous, or the humorous in every situation you can.
Your well-being depends upon what you think. You have dominion over your mind and body. Be vigilant. Change your thoughts; change your life. It's your journey. Make up your mind to make it the best you can possibly imagine.